Everyone needs friendship and affection. Calling a friend can be exactly what you need to deal with stressful situations. But, if randomly reaching out makes you nervous, you may be surprised to learn that many friendship worries are just myths.
Myth #1: Your Friends Are Upset With You
Stress does weird things to the brain. It can make you invent imaginary scenarios and replay negative feelings constantly. Worries about friendship are one of the most common fears.
Cut through dark clouds by taking action. Remember that these worries are just a side effect of anxiety. They're not real.
Pick up the phone. You’ll probably be pleasantly surprised by how excited the person is to hear from you.
Myth #2: You Messed Up Texting
You know the drill: You were texting with a friend when your boss called, and you had to rush to the office. Or you wrote a message that sounded great in your head but came out all wrong.
This situation has happened to most people at some point. Your friends have probably done the same thing countless times!
You can still have a great conversation. You just need to break the ice again. Send a humorous or encouraging text message that reminds the person how much you appreciate them.
Myth #3: Friends Shouldn’t Argue Ever
Avoiding arguments with friends is a good goal, but the reality is that it will probably happen at some point. That doesn’t mean the friendship is over.
Real friends are like family members. Being perfect isn’t a realistic requirement.
When you haven’t slept in a week because your kids are sick, it’s understandable to be irritable. That being said, knowing how to apologize and forgive is crucial. Saying “I’m sorry” and sending a cute cat meme is often all that’s needed.
Myth #4: Your Friend Is Avoiding You
There could be a thousand reasons why your friend hasn’t responded, but many people immediately blame themselves. It’s more likely that the person has simply been busier, more distracted or more stressed than usual.
A friendly voice may be precisely what both of you need! Offer to buy a cup of coffee and talk at the park. That way neither has to worry about cleaning the house or getting dressed up for a restaurant.
Myth #5: Your Friend Was Rude to You
Be very careful how seriously you take text messages. Misunderstandings are extremely common.
Text messages are really bad at communicating emotions. Forgetting to include an emoji can make something funny sound sarcastic. Without hearing the other person’s voice, it’s easy to take words incorrectly.
When in doubt, opt for a quick phone call. Asking “How are you today?” can often clear up misunderstandings in seconds.
Myth #6: Too Much Time Has Passed
Time isn't the friendship killer you think it is. Happy memories don't just disappear. You can build on them with new moments.
Don't focus on the time that has passed. Focus on reconnecting.
Real people mature and change, but it only makes them more interesting. The core things that attracted you in the past are still there: good qualities.
The Benefits of Reaching Out
Spending time with friends has many physical and emotional benefits. It can alleviate stress, improve your self-esteem and encourage you to stay fit. Like anything of value, friends take time and effort, but they’re worth it.